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Which feelings do you want to 'surf' with?

Updated: Mar 4, 2023

Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf." ~Jonatan Mårtensson

Have you ever had such intense feelings that you acted impulsively – almost out of control?

Things like eating an entire chocolate cake (or box of Guylian chocolates - guilty!); calling a long-past romantic interest; bumming a cigarette—although you quit years ago; or ordering those new boots off the internet although you’ve sworn not to use your credit card this month?

Impulsive behaviour has got most of us into trouble at one time or another.

When emotions are intense, the impulse or urge to act washes over us like an enormous wave.

The good news is that urge usually lasts for fewer than 30 minutes and once it passes, we build our urge resistance.

Developing emotional intelligence - or EQ - includes managing these intense emotionally based behaviours.

Psychologist Alan Marlett coined the term 'urge-surfing' which you can relate to the next time you feel an intense emotional urge. It can help you to allow the urge to pass before acting on it - and here’s how..

· Breathe deeply and become present.

· Experience your urge as if it is a wave–starting small and building.

· Visualise yourself riding the wave on a surfboard.

· Experience the power of riding the surf.

· Stay centred.. breathe.. smile.

· Stay with the wave until it begins to subside – absorbed by the ocean.

· Continue to take calming, yet invigorating breaths as the urge settles down.

Use urge surfing as an EQ building block the next time you have an urge that does not support your good intentions!

And if you’re brave in your imagination, “Hang 10... and if you’re looking for healing help for you or any of your pets either emotionally or physically, then please get in touch!

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